SOME GOOD BEDROOM ADVICE FROM THE EXPERTS ?

Sexpert: sex isn't just about penetration

Here’s some good bedroom advice.

Couples should focus on developing their intimacy rather than being fixated on penetrative sex, sexual health experts tell The Daily Chilli.

Get this: not all sexual intercourse has to be about penetrative sex.

“So stop being overly obsessed about needing an erect penis to have sex,” says Dr Martha Lee, founder of Eros Coaching, a popular sex counseling centre in Singapore.

“I don’t believe you need to have an erect penis to have sex,” she advises. “The definition of sex has always been about penetration. But why does the world have to end just because the penis cannot stand? You can still give sexual pleasure to your partner in a million and one ways and it is only limited by your imagination.”

Dr Lee, who holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from San Francisco’s Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality admits one of the biggest sex myths is that men think their bodies are machines.

“That is the biggest myth that I have to deal with. Some men panic when their penis doesn’t work the way they expect it to. They want it to do what they tell it to do. If it doesn’t, they panic,” she said.

Rather than treating intercourse as a marathon, Dr Lee suggests men to “take a stroll through the park”.

“It is proven that if you can climb three flights of stairs, you can still enjoy good sexual health.

“The problem comes when men think they can pop a pill and go run a marathon,” she points out.

Echoing the same sentiment is acclaimed Malaysian reproductive and men’s sexual health specialist, Dr Mohd Ismail Mohd Tambi. He thinks some men are overly concerned about being “firmer, harder, stronger” for their partners.

He reveals that most of his clients in his Jalan Ipoh clinic, whose ages range from 20-something to 50-something, think intimacy equals “into me”.

“That is where the penetrative element is. They think that without ‘into me’, they cannot be intimate."

"I’ve got guys who cry because of ED (erectile dysfunction). When their mothers, their fathers pass away, they don’t cry. When this (ED) happens, they cry. Somewhere along the line, we need to educate men,” Dr Ismail concludes